Got a call from the BF last night after he had dropped his daughter off from softball practice. When they got there, her mother was so out of her mind drunk that she walked from her house to the liquor store to buy more wine. The good news is the Breathalyzer machine in her car prevented her from driving. The bad news, her daughter had to bear witness yet again to how out of control her mother is. The mother started yelling at the father because he wouldn't take her to get more to drink then threatened to call 9-1-1 if he didn't leave the house immediately. She said she would tell the police he was an intruder if he stayed. Personally, I would have stayed the line on this one and handed her the phone and said go for it. I have no idea why he left. Hind sight is 20/20 I guess. Instead he waited across the street until his daughter called him to say the mom had passed out, she was safe and was going to bed.
The BF went to the Attorney General's office this morning to see what he could do to about getting his name added to his daughter's birth certificate so he can get the ball rolling on custody for his daughter. Sadly, he cannot do anything without the mother's signature stating he is the father of their daughter. I am sure he is really kicking himself right now for waiting all of these years to do anything about his name not being on the birth certificate.
Now it is on to an attorney. I pray for him and his daughter both that they are able to find a solution to this mess. The mother continues to drink so heavily that she either passes out or blacks out. The next morning she has NO recollection of anything that happened the night before. It is insane. He can't even call CPS because he is afraid he will lose his daughter completely.
I know the laws are there to protect the children, but there has to be a better way handle this. Give them a DNA test to prove paternity then rock on. I hope he finally sees the writing on the wall and realizes that he has to really do something. If not, he will have to go because I can't be involved with anyone that would leave their kid like that. I still can't believe he left her there last night.
I'm with you on not believing that he could leave her there last night...but it is encouraging that he's finally getting things in motion. You are handling this well and I hope it works out for all of you...especially his daughter.
ReplyDeleteIt's a fine line. :(
ReplyDeleteHe can go to the probate court house, see a judge that day, and request a DNA test done under an emergent nature.
He can say he has concerns about the mother's behavior lately, and needs confirmation before seeking custody.
That should get the ball rolling.
As for his "balls" for leaving her there... No comment.